Updated: Jun 12, 2021
Do you ever meet up with people or go on your social media and come away thinking 'I wish I had that' or 'they have got everything, the car, the house etc....' feeling like you wish you were them or had what they have?
Your not alone, I think we have all done this at some point or another. Especially when your younger and want everything and want it yesterday. A lot of people fall into alway focusing on what they do not have or wish they had, that is normal, we all do it. The key is to do it occassionaly before you snap out of it and remember the truth, it will be nothing like they are saying or what you are seeing.
Think about it, do you meet up with people or go on your social media and tell everyone how awful your life is, how you hate everything you possess because you want what they 'have'? Generally no we don't, we instinctively sugar coat everything as we want people to think we are really happy with what we have, that everything runs smoothly, you just wake up looking amazing with hardly any effort, or that you have it all together. The only time we moan is when our partners are driving us mad and said something that really annoys us or something like that, but yet I still think we sprinkle it with a bit of defensive sugar on top!!!
In my experience too. If someone has acted on thoughts because they thought the grass was greener elsewhere etc.... everytime they have come to regret their decisions!!! All is not what it seems, remember that. What you see on social media is only what they want you to see, they want you to be in awe and coo over their lives as they feel validated by it and above others. We all like a nosey until we see something we wish we had or could do etc....
That is why there are two types of jealousy, the type that makes you bitter and venomous and the type that fills you with joy to see someone you care about so happy or successful. The latter is the better more mentally stabilising one clearly. Lifting someone up is far better for you than dragging someone down.
Those who drag people down usually have an insecurity or something not great going on that makes them want to put another person down.
When my son comes home from school and tells me things other children say to him I explain that they are doing it because they feel bad about something or they are jealous so try and knock you down. This is something I wish I knew when I was young.
We only have to see all the terrible things that have been going on over the last year to realise that we should appreciate all that we have and concentrate on that instead. It is certainly better for our well being to focus on the good and if you need anything to reach out and ask for help. There is no shame whatsoever in asking for help.
The grass is NOT greener on the other side..