Updated: Jun 12
I am always saying the phrase 'it's the simple things' and I say this a lot as it really IS TRUE and I feel it is a subtle way to nudge people to say don't stop the simple gestures, or start those simple gestures, I miss those simply gestures and the generally accurate one of 'IF they/you could just...'
The little things can make a big difference to someone else's day or life.
A bit of a list of some of those little things that can really help someone's metal health and well being:
Check in on the phone.
Send a text and check in.
Send a card or a letter.
Remember important events for them.
Run someone a bath.
Make time for a brew and a catch up.
Give someone a lay in.
Brew in bed.
Offer to pick them stuff up whilst your out.
There are many, many little things we can all do to help each other out. Reaching out can be vital for some people, it could be that you are their only contact, that you are stopping someone from feeling alone or isolated.
We can all become complacent with our own family and friends and get into bad habits and not showing each other the worth of someone else. I am guilty of doing this too and I have to check in with myself from time to time and make a conscious effort to show those around me that I appreciate them.
We can all get busy in our lives and speed through like a train forgetting to stop off and take a rest. Before you know it you haven't really had much time with anyone and certainly not quality time. If lockdown has made me learn anything it is that a good majority of us managed to work well from home and get an improved work, life balance. For my family it meant that my fiance currently does not spend at least 2.5 hours travelling a day and our children see him more and meal times are at a better time etc... I am all for that to continue.
Most of the time people do not mean to upset anyone by having not been in touch or something it is just busy times and life gets in the way. The problem here is that the person who sits in a darkness day in and day out and feels awful will not think about that, they are probably thinking no one bothers, no one cares and no one misses me. I know I have done this and at that moment I really did think those things were true. You cannot see a way out of that darkness whilst you are in it.
SO let us all pick up our phones or whatever method you want to use and message 3 people that you know who you think will appreciate a check in the most. Do that something simple and let people know they are appreciated and loved. You may just make someone's day, week, month, year or even in some cases their lives.